Do you know how to accept a compliment?
I mean, really accept it.
Take it in.
Luxuriate in the feeling of someone else noticing your shine.
Or perhaps, like a lot of women, you feel the need to deflect the attentions of your admirer. Coming up with all sorts of excuses as to why they are mistaken about the light they see in you. (You know that’s what they’re doing, right? Acknowledging your beauty and light.)
You know what I’m talking about. You’re out to dinner with your man, and while you’re in the ladies’ room, a stranger compliments your outfit and you respond with how old it is or how you found it on the clearance rack. Or maybe you feel compelled to say something flattering in return. Anything to minimize and redirect the attention from you. I used to do it too.
Why is that? Maybe we want to appear humble and somehow agreeing with them we think makes us come across as arrogant. Or perhaps we think it's endearing to be self-deprecating.
I'll let you in on a little secret. It's not.
Instead it says that you are insecure about how fly you really are and you feel the need to hide.
So, we're going to stop it. Like today. The next time someone gives you a compliment, here's what you do:
1) Look them in the eye. Eye contact is important.
3) Say, "thank you. I appreciate that."
Let's practice it, shall we? Here we go. I'll start: "Love, you are glowing today! I am sooo feeling that dress you're wearing." Now, what do you say...? #worthy